We have a double standard, which is to say, a man can show how much he cares by being violent — see, he’s jealous, he cares — a woman shows how much she cares by how much she’s willing to be hurt; by how much she will take; how much she will endure.
— Andrea Dworkin (via womenorgnow)
Sometimes this really seems to shock people. They appear genuinely upset when I say ‘this conversation is over’ or ‘I’m actually not interested in debating this with you.’ There’s an expectation that if you care about social justice and political issues, you’re always ‘on.’ You’re always ready to debate, you’re always ready to have theoretical discussions about your own lived experiences and the issues you care about, you’re always ready to defend yourself. That’s manifestly ridiculous and unjust, an expectation that’s simply not reasonable.
Setting boundaries/self preservation <3
Men Stop Threatening To Kill Your Daughters Boyfriends To Prove Your Masculinity and Show That Your Daughter Is Your Property 2k14